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Top 3 Money Mistakes Couples Make


Now money mistakes happen. Have you committed one of the big three?

Update: The embedded video kept breaking so I replaced it with a link.

Thanks to Yahoo Finance and their #MoneyMinute, even though its actually 3 minutes.



5 Money Questions You Should Ask Before Tying The Knot


About to tie the knot? Mary Schwager of wrote a great piece to help give you some advice on how to manage your money.

You know this one: Struggles, arguments and disagreements about finances are among the most common reasons couples break up. If you are a saver and your love is a not-so-better half when it comes to spending money, that can be a recipe for relationship disaster.

How do you know what you’re getting into before you say “I do”? Money expert and financial adviser Margie Baldock, author of The Mother Lode Manifesto, says when it comes to your financial health, selecting the right partner is the most important decision you can make. “The wrong partner, financially speaking, can mean a life of stress, struggle and strain. It is no wonder, then, that 80 percent of divorce is believed to be based upon money disputes.”

Baldock recommends you not walk down that aisle until you’ve asked, discussed and are satisfied with how your partner answers these very important five money questions:


Budgeting Advice for Canadian Couples

Sage advice from Helen Racanelli, originally posted on

Tired of arguments about money? Learn to manage your money better as a couple
Use this easy plan and 11 quick tips to learn to work together with your significant other to manage your money.

A whopping 86 per cent of Canadian couples admit to arguing about money, which is more than they argue about sex or the kids, says an eye-opening survey conducted by Credit Canada and Capital One. That’s more than eight out of every 10 couples fighting about how they manage their money. Canadian Living asked Laurie Campbell, a credit counselor and executive director with Credit Canada, about why couples have money management problems, and how to get marital spending, saving and planning back on track.

Keep communicating  

“Couples start to go wrong when they stop communicating about how they are spending the family’s money,” says Campbell. Most couples stay financially focused, however there are some couples that stray and start to think of their earnings as their own, not considering how this affects the family’s financial stability, she says. “In these cases they’re often using money as a control mechanism. For example, ‘I will give you money if…’ This strongly causes division in couples and results in a power struggle,” she explains.

Other fights will crop up if you are simmering with money resentment

“When couples don’t deal with the root of the problem, resentment builds up,” Campbell says. “And it should also be noted that other arguments are waiting to crop up as an excuse or a way to deal with the long-term resentment.” Financial issues can be extremely problematic in relationships if they are not dealt with, she adds.

It’s true: Money fights can lead to divorce  

“It is has often been said that the number one reason for divorce are financial difficulties,” Campbell says. Interestingly, she says a sense of betrayal can be the precipitating factor. “Without a doubt, the clients we see indicate that their financial struggles have put a severe burden on their relationship. Different money management styles are certainly one of the many reasons that couples think of, or head for, divorce. When a couple is unable to resolve their financial problems, they tend to find it very difficult to get past the financial betrayal,” Campbell says. “However, if the situation is beyond the couple’s control, such as job loss or illness, the resentment is usually not there and they do try to work together to resolve their financial dilemmas.”   Seek credit counseling early on Couples should seek help early if they are struggling to manage their finances, says Campbell, because the worst thing for a relationship – and pocketbook – is to let issues fester. Not-for-profit credit counseling services across Canada, such as Credit Canada, can help, she says.

11 quick and easy tips to manage your money better as a couple 1. Consider a joint account for household expenses if you are both employed, with contributions possibly pegged to how much each partner earns.

2. Get out the pen and paper and write things down. Putting things in writing helps keep emotions in check.

3. Nix the blame game. Blaming each other for money problems will just spill over into arguments in other parts of your life, too.

4. Schedule time to talk about money on the weekend when neither partner is too busy or stressed.

5. Avoid bringing up how other couples handle money; it’s usually irrelevant to your situation.

6. Keep your individual credit cards. Credit Canada says two individual strong credit histories are better than a joint credit history if you apply for a loan.

7. Discuss personal windfalls, such as inheritance. Agree on how to spend this money as a couple and you and your spouse will be the happier for it.

8. Talk about your individual investments and debts, too. Keeping your partner up-to-date on what’s going on with your money will avoid potential fights down the road.

9. Evenly split your money-management responsibilities and tasks. Learn about money management and don’t be passive.

10. Involve the kids: They won’t benefit from being sheltered, and want to know about the family’s finances (which will also come in handy if you need to tell them certain expensive purchases or vacations are out of reach).

11. Develop short-term and long-term goals and keep on top of them with progress reports or a net-worth statement

It’s probably inevitable that you and your partner will disagree about money at some point, but to prevent minor disagreements from becoming marriage-busters, keep the communication lines open. Talk with each other, share information with your kids and carve out regular, low-stress sessions to chat about money and planning.

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